Friday, March 14, 2008

Sisters

It is easy to feel like I am cutting each girl short. I mean, let's be honest, I cannot be everything to a 2 year old and a 4 month old at the same time all the time. Somestimes Cecilia simply has to wait while I care for Felicity and sometimes Felicity has to wait in her bouncy seat or in her bassinet while I care for Cecilia. Unbeknownst to each girl it is a constant tug of war. Sometimes it does not even matter if Daddy is around so that each girl can have one parent. Sibling rivalry has already begun and it can be very easy for me to guilt myself into believing that I am denying each girl something they should have.

But wait a minute.

Perhaps each girl is losing something but what are they getting for it? In exchange for sharing me, they each get quite a lot.  They get someone with whom they can play, share, laugh, smile, run, watch movies, play games, hug, kiss, braid hair, and share their lives. God willing, all my children will outlive me. Which means even when I can not be there for them beyond prayer, they will still have each other. This makes them invaluable to each other.

Plus, when I consider how little one-on-one or one-on-two attention most children receive (consider that no daycare child receives such attention) and that this is not from a nanny or babysitter but me, I realize that they are not losing much except maybe the notion that the world revolves around them.

Happily, though they do compete for attention, they love each other very much. Though Felicity cannot show much, she watches Cecilia closely observing her and smiles at her all the time. Cecilia, for her part, won't go to bed at night without kissing her baby sister. She also wants her to go outside with us when we play ball or blow bubbles and she randomly showers her baby sister with hugs and kisses throughout the day.

1 comment:

  1. I've been thinking about these same issues quite a bit recently too with the addition of Sophia to our family.

    "I realize that they are not losing much except maybe the notion that the world revolves around them."
    I definitely agree with that. i think that without a little sister we'd be in danger of Bella's becoming rather spoiled as the enter of her world. It is a struggle to learn that sometimes others' needs take precedence; but I think it's a lesson better learned sooner rather than later.

    "God willing, all my children will outlive me. Which means even when I can not be there for them beyond prayer, they will still have each other. This makes them invaluable to each other."

    Amen to that. I thank God on an almost daily basis for my sister who is my best friend. And I am grateful too for my brothers. Siblings are definitely the best gift you can give to your children.

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