Katherine, over at Evlogia, had an interesting reflection.
She had an emotional trip to the spa during her 40th week of pregnancy and was asked if she was going to have any more children when those present learned she was carrying her sixth child. Another woman near her was asked if she was going to have any more children upon everyone learning she had one child and Katherine understood her response to hold back the emotion of pain at not having more children.
The fruitful mother with her full quiver, anticipating a new blessing at any moment and the barren mother with her aching arms, thankful for the opportunity to love just one child. We couldn't have seemed more different. But judgments are always dangerous. The reality is that we couldn't have been more alike. And when we let go of the focus on the ways in which God is working to save us, we found that in the end He has given us both the same gift. And He knew exactly how to bestow it.
Beautiful, isn't it? It was because the two women found each other that their day of peaceful pampering wasn't spoiled with personal remarks from strangers. Katherine said the other question she often gets is that "You know how that happens, don't you?" Here were her thoughts on this question:
But perhaps the reason it seems appropriate to ask such questions and make such comments is precisely because we've long forgotten how this really happens.
What saddens me about the question is not a suspicion of evil intent behind the questioners. These ladies were simply making small talk. They couldn't have been sweeter. And my jolly belly is most definitely a conversation piece. What can you do? My toes look great! No, my sadness is a matter of a cultural mindset that has changed the way we view the most sacred and mysterious aspects of human life, including the creation of a person, a living icon of Christ.
Consider the recent article on the IVF baby that was aborted after being inserted into the wrong woman. Can a culture that creates and destroys human beings like they were tissues remember just how new life really is created? With all the knowledge we know today about how human life comes about and all the rich understanding we have at our fingertips about what it means to be a parent and a family, what justification is there in ignoring the reality of the miracle of human life? Or do test tubes, condoms, pills, and abortion doctors make it impossible to understand that the creation of a human being is a wonderful event and a sacred reflection of the mystery that is nature and the majesty that is God.